When we get middle age or even before and especially when our children are grown, we tend to remember things that we would like to forget, and then we beat ourselves up over the mistakes we have made or others remind us of our mistakes and some people don't let us forget what we were like or certain things that we have done that were unsavory acts or words. It is hard to forget, but we can learn to let it go. We have all made mistakes that we wish we hadn't done. Some worse than others but to us they seem terrible and we would like to forget about them.
One way to forget about them is to not talk about them to anyone. I am thinking that the only time something like that should be brought up is if you are using the experience to help someone through something similar and sharing your experience helps them to make it through whatever it is.
The devil keeps reminding us of certain things that we would like to forget and we often get depressed over it but we can resist the devils thoughts that he puts in our heads and draw near to God and He will draw near to us.
Proverbs 16:3 "Commit your works to the Lord and your thoughts will be established."
Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope."
If we commit our works unto the Lord, our thoughts will be established. God will give us good things to think about in place of thinking about past mistakes and sin. God also thinks thoughts of peace and not evil to give us a future and a hope.
Psalm 37:5,6 "Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, And He shall being it to pass. He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday."
Psalm 37:8 "Cease from anger and forsake wrath; Do not fret--it only causes harm."
If we commit our way to the Lord and trust Him, He will bring good things to pass and our righteousness as the light and our justice as the noonday. Do not fret over our past mistakes, it will only cause us harm.
Psalm 37:11 "The meek shall inherit the earth, and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace."
James 4:10 "Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up."
1 Peter 5:5 "God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble."
Philippians 4:7 "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
Colossians 3:15 "And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful."
God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble and if we are humble He will lift us up and God's peace which passes all understanding will guard our hearts and minds and keep our thoughts on things above and we won't be tempted to think about our past mistakes. We must let His peace rule in our hearts to be able to forget the past and dwell upon today and what we can do today to make life worth living.
If you have anyone, I mean anyone that loves to dwell on the past, try to help them to forget the terrible past and think on the good things of today, how God is leading us on to a better life. My mother was kind of a stern person and I picked up on it and I have felt so bad about being like that when I was raising my children, not all the time because I did play with them and have fun with them but at other times I was stern and a disciplinarian. I am very, very thankful that God has wiped that all away and I love people and have lots of friends that love me and only wish I had learned the lesson of love many years ago. You can learn to love people now. Let God's love flow through you and out to others. It is an amazing experience and you will be surprised what your loving them will do for them. It brings them happiness and love in return. If you see children that need love, love them and let them know you love them, you will be their favorite person. I have friends children that call me grandma and I love it. Forget the past and live for today, it's the better way. Grandma Joan